Good day,
I am sorry to hear that in the end, you lost the tooth and that the extraction procedure was uncomfortable for you. Unfortunately any endodontically treated tooth can become very "brittle" with time, due to various factors and if this tooth was also subjected to excessive " biting " forces, it might have accelerated this process resulting in the fracture. It also then makes it very difficult to sometimes extract the remaining pieces, since they might also fracture.
As a dentist myself, I always give my patients all the options before starting with any treatment, because sometimes there are other factors such as finances at play as well. This is part of informed consent.
Without any radiograph, it is difficult to give an opinion with regards to the restorability of the tooth before and after treatment, but I also try and save a tooth most of the time, since nothing that we as human beings can do, can 100% replace a tooth that you were born with. But again-with informed consent from the patient. The fact that the tooth lasted 4 and a half years, is quite good, since the reason for failure at the end of the day might be related to other factors and not to the endodontic process.
Therefor it is always important not to only focus on one tooth at a time, but to take into consideration the patient as a whole, and how the treated tooth will fit into this picture of a well functioning patient.
I also recommend that in the future, you ask the dentist his/her opinion about alternatives, so that you can make a informed decision. Especially when thinking about the long run.
Just my opinion.
I wish you best of luck with the rest of your teeth. Might your smile still last a long time!