Cant get my bite right after filling PLEASE HELP im going insane

[Megalo]

Got a filling in top tooth 13 that went between 13 and 12. Came back due to off bite and pain. They filed 13 AND 12 (had an old filling it didnt need to be filed). Went mult. times to fix the off bite. My front canines on the side of the filling were banging together. They filed so low it didnt show on contact paper but the doc okayed the work and offered to file my canines.

Furious, I Got a 2nd opinion who said the two teeth werent touching & re did the fillings. One in between filling was now two. Filled them so high i spent mult. trips to get it fixed. They didnt want to adjust much and werent very helpful so I had my old ortho look at it. He filed a high spot.

Tried showing my retainer. Its like an invisilign and with every detail. I know it cant be the exact same again but get you can at least compare After the high fillings it would pop off but not the too low ones.

Bite worse than ever and hurting I called the original office back and demanded the head guy fix it not the one who okayed the bad work. He filed one spot and said i may need to come back. It felt great for a day and then went back to hurting and off. I called back but he was on vacay for a MONTH. The only head guy there was the one who okayed the bad work.

Frustrated, I went back to my ortho because i didnt trust anyone else. He did another tiny filing but it felt like a drastic difference. Hes said see an actual dentist. It felt more normal but i now hurt more.

Im now at almost two months of adjustments. Mouth hurting to the point of insanity and mentally drained. But my bite HAS to be fixed. Its all i think about all day.

Went back to the original dentist that day the one okaying bad work. I couldnt wait and couldnt keep leaving work. Had them take xrays to check nerve damage but all was good. No adjustments done he said it looked good. Prescribed 800mg ibuprofen. Suggested wearing my retainer and taking the medicine for 3 days. I was in so much pain my jaws quivered.

My mouth has calmed 2 days later. I definately needed to get medicine in me and my jaw a rest. But bite is still off and im about to go insane. Its not the same when i smile. Different teeth are still hitting. The back of thirteen used to touch and now feels like it doesn't after the ortho. And now im hitting my far back tooth when i shut my mouth. Im so worried its too low again but hoping fronts just too high or that they can add composite and shape. My head throbs off and on. Scared to get 3rd opinion and they file too low and have to get it filled a 3rd time. Scared to go back to the original dentist. Retainer fits but now. The side ive had work on feels lower than the good side like all my teeth are on an angle almost or just a sunken feeling...does that mean it too low again?!?!? Or maybe i gkt used to the fillings being too high? So how would my mouth feel on teeth 13 and 12 and what teeth should touch if it was high vs if it was low? Should i see someone else? Its friday night i cant make it to Monday like this. I may go to a saturday dentist but its one of those dentist chains called dental excellence. I dont want to make things worse but im desperate. And cant keep leaving work to go to a normal dentist during the week. Im a single mom taking care of a one year old and im exhausted and cant just go to the dentist whenever i wan.
Please help me get out of this nightmare im close to having a meltdown.

 

[Busybee]

Dear Megalo. I am really sorry you are going through this. I've been through a similar problem myself and all I can say is that once a dental professional has adjusted your bite in this way it is nigh on impossible to fix. If you carry on you will diagnosed with a "sensitive bite" even though you never had a problem with it until you went to the dentist! I'm afraid dentists are happy to create the problem, but there is no easy solution. One thing you must stop is having more adjustments to file your teeth down. If they file down actual tooth there is no way to really replace them as nature created them. I'd suggest you go to a dentist who can make you a hard dental splint to wear at night. This will give you some relief when you sleep and should relax your jaw muscles over that time. If properly made, it should work better than the retainer. You should maybe try to wear it in the day. You only have so much natural tooth, don't let anyone take any enamel down. Try to relax your jaw muscles by not letting the teeth touch when you close your mouth. Get a bite analysis done with study models that examine which teeth are hitting too much. Unfortunately there is no quick fix. You have to try to relax the jaw and manage the anxiety while you get treated. It's extremely frustrating that dentists can create such problems but having any dental work is always a risk. Your bite is important on so many levels and changing it can not only cause frustration and pain, but can affect digestion, and general health. You need to accept that this will take time to fix and that you need to see someone who is a specialist.