Can someone please help me? I'm terrified

[Erinlynn]

For the last 8 months my boyfriend has been battling tooth pain. Well more like agony. It took several months of seeing dentists, oral surgeons, a tmjd specialist, and going to a medical center in Boston to get a very unhelpful answer. What was explained to him was that there was a combination of causes that lead to this pain. He had braces as a kid which they said caused him not to be able to brush right, he grinds his teeth in his sleep and he just has overall sensitivity. We weren't really happy with that answer but we took it and ran with it because it was the only thing we had to work with and this was really starting to ruin his life. By the point that we got this answer he had already had to drop out of school because he couldn't handle the stress, pain, and waking up early when he could barely sleep. Once this answer came about he got a mouth guard to sleep with that he always used. They gave him a low grade long term pain medication to be on. He was using special tooth paste and taking perfect care of his teeth, He was doing fluoride treatments and baking soda mouth rises to help. He cut everything bad for your teeth from his diet. well what ever was left of his diet.. He was always using straws, drinking mostly water, watching the Ph balance of his mouth. His teeth look perfect. They are white and straight and they say even his xrays look pretty good. He was doing everything in his power to get ride of this terrible god forsaken agony. NOTHING WORKS! Absolutely nothing works, And no one is doing a damn thing! By this point my boyfriend has decided he wants nothing to do with his teeth or life, He wants them all taken out and he wants to get dentures. He's 23... Now i know (mostly because its all i have been hearing at the other end of the phone) that he is so young for dentures. And i keep getting this "we want to save the teeth" crap. I'm so sick of this answer absolutely no one is listening to the problem. For the last 8 months my boyfriend has been drowning in hell. He has been in terrible or terrified that the pain will start up again. Currently half of his diet is pain medication. He eats maybe once a day twice if he isn't in too much pain. As i said he dropped out of school and is in the process of losing his job with all the sick days he has taken to either see someone or because he is in too much pain to function. He has let all of his friends, hobbies,wants,and family slip away from him. I am watching the light slow die in his eyes. The way he talks, the way he looks, he is just miserable. And now he is miserable to the point where he has lost hope, He doesn't want to do anything anymore. Life is point less to him, he no longer cares about anything and I am so terrified about what will happen if i cant find something. He has been so withdrawn and sad and i cant bare it anymore. I can no longer watch the love of my life slip away while he is still physically present. I'm so sick of calling the people who tell me they want to save the teeth I desperately need to find someone who will save the man. We live in Rhode Island but I am willing to travel to wherever whenever to get this done. If insurance wont cover him getting dentures someplace will pay out of pocket. We have family that can help, we will take out loans, ill work 8 jobs if i need to. I am just in desperate need of help. I have no idea what to do anymore. I just need a place willing to extract healthy looking teeth to give my man his life back. He in no way shape or form cares about his teeth or keeping them. While i know other people get upset about getting them he doesn't care, He is one of the most confident people i know. He just wants to live life again. Please someone, anyone please help us. I want him to live, we are both terrified of whats to come. This so stressful and aggravating. No one seems to care to help. I will go anywhere to get him out of pain. If anyone has ideas or actual know of someone please let me know. You will be giving a young man his life back.

 

[PlacidWay-US]

Hi @Erinlynn i can feel you. It is really hard for a guy to have a very bad teeth and as you stated it really affects your boyfriends life. Guys are number one self concious in terms of how they look. About his case you may seek a second opinion, there should be an initial assesment if there is a need to take out all his teeth and have dentures. Maybe there are other dental treatment available so don't fall into dentures alone. You also stated traveling abroad for a paricular treatment, Just to give you an idea it is not easy to look for a good dentist and dental centers abroad. You need to do more deep research and background checking. The best option for you to look into is either Mexico or Costa Rica there are also good dental clinics in Asia but you really need to do more research. Good luck!